From the day that we are born, we are being restricted with boundaries.
Some people like to live with rules and regulations. It give them an answer to the Dos and Don’ts. With these boundaries, they will not make mistakes, and know their limitations. They like to be their comfort zone, with direction and restricted freedom.
Some people beg to differ. They hate boundaries, hate rules and regulation and hate to be inflexible. To them, rules and regulation is just a guidance. Improvise is the key factor.
Personally, i am one of the stubborn 90s generation that hate boundaries.
I hate the fact that people have this mindset that following in a restricted path will guarantee their way to success. This is ridiculous. I hate that we are being limited with our creativity and exposure. We should be adventurous enough to try new things, enjoy experiences that are way beyond boundaries.
However, as much as this sounds really easy, there is still an area of reality that each self need to face. This sucks, but it will only drive me harder to achieve my goals.
No money, no honey. A truth that everyone need to face. No one is able to deny that money is a part of contribution to happiness. Come on, stop saying that “Money is the root to all evil”. You have to admit that this little evil do make you achieve your goals/dreams faster and smoother. No? You are lying to yourself.
Well, I am not here to reprimand the “Money” issue. So, back to topic.
We have been getting used to being restricted when we were young. Mom says can’t do this, don’t do that. Rebellious kids will get against their parents, who obedience kids will listen to their parents. I am not pinpointing at the parents, but this society.
Have you ever realised that when we are doing something, our mind will be in dilemma. “Are we allow to do this?” “Are we getting into some kind of trouble if we proceed further?”
If yes, ta-da~ You are the common victim that are being educated with limitation. Inflexibility and maybe, a human robot? You only work with what you’re being programmed, and can’t go the extra mile.
I am not saying that making rules and regulation is a bad thing. However,it does give a child some kind of negativity during their development. I can’t deny that putting boundary is the key to good order. Just that, the bad thing is it is inking a mindset in a child that we must stick to the rules and not think out of the box. it is so deeply rooted that it will take a lot of effort to change this thinking. We can lose confidence and not having enough “wild” fun when we are young. By the time we have realised this, our bones will break just by thinking of chasing back the fun time that are wasted away.
Whenever we are face with new challenges, our mind is being restricted to what we always do. In other words, we can’t break through. This is what I hate about this education culture. Everyone is trying to be the best, and stand out from the crowd. If you look at the big picture, they are all doing the same thing. Study hard, and get the best result or top in the school.
Sadly, if a kid is sucks at studying but is always giving new ideas and think out of the box, no one appreciate. Worse, people think that it is wrong. Why? This is because they themselves have been sub-consciously being deeply rooted with the standard boundaries.
Even for myself, I am stuck with boundaries too. Whenever I am planning or daydreaming to goals that seem unreachable, my invisible boundary appear. My mind will be “Will I ever achieve it?”
(One good thing about myself that my sister hate is my fuck-it attitude. Once I face a challenge and have second thought, I will tell myself not to think so much and give it a go. Thankfully, I have been through the studying hard period. )
Well, i cannot give false hope by saying ” Of course you can!” Cause it feel a thousand times worst if you really did not make it in the end. So, my standard comforting words are ” No regrets if you have tried your best. ”
Safe mode on.
Anyways, this post is not about encouraging people but reminding people that there is boundaries around us. Physically and mentally.
Why some of them are able to make it big and be really successful?
It is because they think that boundaries are just a pile of shit, and avoid at all cost. And yes, I am telling myself every single day to breakthrough this clingy bubble. It is demotivating and disgusting. Shoo shoo.