Have you ever experienced a casual conversation just let you see another aspect in life?
It happened around last year, and I am still able to remember clearly.
I was being introduced to this friend who is building up his portfolio in tattoo-ing experience. He is nice, and very friendly. Ever since the first time I got him to help with my first tattoo, I’ve never wanted to change another artist anymore.
Not because of any specific reason, just that I feel comfortable with him for doing my inks. That’s all. Don’t really need a good or ‘meaningful’ reason.
So we were talking about those tattoos that have meanings behind them. For example, “This Too Shall Pass” means that regardless you are in a good or bad situation, it will be gone so just enjoy the moment while it last.
Something like that.
And random enough, he popped out a question: “Must we need to have a reason for every tattoo we do? If we want, just do it. As long as it makes us happy.”
And trust me, from then on, his words are stuck in mind and even help me in deciding some life choices too.
In the past, as I’ve realised, I have always been reckless and do whatever things I want. It is somehow selfish, and impulsive which I cannot deny that I do regret some time.
So, my sisters who are much more thoughtful, taught me that I need to think of the consequences and decide if it is worth my efforts and money. I heed their advice, and become what they want me to be. Well, it is sort of living to people’s expectation and the feeling of achievements when one compliment that you’ve changed. Words from your loved ones have weight, no doubt.
I reflected, and surprisingly agreed with what he said.
Isn’t that the simplest yet hardest to achieve in life?
Most of us have expectations. What we want to become in future, and our standard we are setting for ourselves. Unknowingly, we are setting the same standards for others as well.
Without looking back, we have missed out many simple joys in life while pursuing our careers or goals. Sometimes, we give ourselves excuses that we don’t need this simplicity in life, and only our goals are the utmost important.
The reasons that we gave ourselves are, sometimes, not even true. We are lying to ourselves in order to avoid judgments from others. You’re scared that people will see you as ‘immature’ or ‘reckless’ when you can’t give them a good reason behind your actions.
Words can be a deadly weapon too.
You are afraid the mockery and not firm enough to support yourself among all these negativity.
You know, I believe that some idiots are questioning you for your actions in order to put you down and embarrass you. So, why allow them?
In their face, tell them that you do not need to explain to them for your actions because they aren’t worthy of your time and effort. Confidence is the key. Believe in yourself, and be the last man standing.
You need to understand that you do not need reason for every single thing you do. You do not need an answer for your every actions, as long as it makes you happy. Simple as that. Why squeeze your brain juice trying to come out with a reason to convince others?
It will complicate everything, and in the end you’re doubting yourself as well.
Take myself for example, I do not need a reason to explain why do I want to ink myself. I just do it. Why should I even troubled to come out with a last-min reason to make you happy?
I do not need a reason to explain why am I not going to University for now.
I do not need a reason to explain why am I so straightforward and sarcastic in nature. (Well, you must have deserve it in some sense.)
Well, I am not always right. But, I do have motto in life that I’m strongly believed in. Even if I am wrong, at least I learn from my mistake and never repeat the history again.
Don’t even allow people’s mindless words to stop you from your pursuing your dreams or happiness. You know for yourself, what is the most important things in your life. They don’t.
Okay, so there will be some jokers or sicko around, that twist the words. You know there are always people who have nothing better to do that make your life miserable.
I don’t want to bother too much explaining, I have made my words clear. If you want to make a joke of yourself by twisting the words another way round, by all means. I believe that people with true intelligence know what i am driving at.
“Your confidence will shine through, and that aura will attract others like moths to a flame.”