Last Saturday, I went to the FHM Final 2014 and it wasn’t ended so well.
I was shocked that there are guys on earth who can be so disrespectful to women.
I mean, I have seen guys complaining having to pay extra their girlfriends, or can’t stand if women are earning more than their current salary. Having ego is by guy’s nature, but not when you have no respect in women at all.
So this guy, named Brandon “The Beast” was trying to hit on my friend after the final has ended. My girl and I were both slacking at Azurra Beach Club, at one spot and unfortunately he and his group of friends were just beside us. So, he came up and offer my friend a drink and some snacks. Well, it was nice of him. Perfect gentleman act, but quite dramatic.
So my friend, who is attached, rejected his offer and showed no interest in him at all. I was joking and teasing my friend at that time. The mood was completely fine and casual.
Second time he came over, and wanted my friend to take a sip of his beer. So, my friend rejected him again but this time, he was being a little pushy and insisted my friend to do as per his request. Well, of course, my friend still rejected him. I was feeling abit annoyed by his acts, as he was deliberately pretending that he did not to get the hint to back off.
In the end, i was enjoying the conversation with my friend (which hasn’t happened in the longest time) and they decided to approach again. I was pissed, cause they completely ruined the mood. Thinking that they will only hangout for a while, so we entertained them alittle as it is okay to make friends.
I am fine with guys who have high confidence in themselves, it is normal. This is their personality. I am NOT FINE with guys who are overconfidence and thinking he can score with any woman he hit on. Yes, you may have been scoring well all these while, but not all women see you as their own cup of tea.
This Brandon guy, was completely forcing his advance on my girl and i was not exactly happy with him. However, I know that my girl will handle it well. Hence, I endured his nonsenses. What made me roll my eyes is when he said this after my girl told him that she’s attached. “So, you guys are not even married yet right? …” I’ve forgotten what he said behind, but i don’t care.
What kind of nonsense is this? I realised that nowadays, alot of guys have this mentality. They think that as long as the girl he is hitting on is not married, they will stand a chance to woo her. How about let’s think in this way: If a girl will accept your pursuit even though she is unavailable at that point of time, do you think this kind of thing won’t happen to you?
My second roll eye moment. We were talking about a company who is set up by his other 2 friends (not him), called “Seriously Man”. It is interesting, as it is about a guide to life for GENTLEMAN only. Oh, according to his friends, he is just the helper. Which is good, if not he is ruining the reputation of this company. His friends are real gentlemen. Well, you can see the difference.
However, he was just so cocky that made me use my sarcasm:” Where do you get your overconfidence from?”
“Oh, we are just born with it. It is in our blood.” Erm guys, there is no such thing as being “born with confidence”. Confidence is build up from your successful experiences and people’s compliment as you grow up. It is impossible to get this naturally. If so, I will urge you to participate in “Guinness World Record” and win yourself some awards.
FYI, I am a fan of intelligent answers. You should get yourself a Master degree in Crap and Bullshit Management.
It was pretty obvious that both of us don’t see eye to eye with each other, and there was an internal war going on. So, my friend and I decided to leave first. I was keeping my cool, until he said: Well, I think that all Asian girls are are kind of one kind, don’t they?”
Being a fan of sarcasm, i questioned him:” Define “One Kind”.
He said:” Well, they are kind of… erm… conservative?”
I was being offended because it was clearly shooting the both of us. I questioned him again :” Define “Conservative”.
Blah blah blah, he went defending for him which I think is bull shitting so I didnt pay attention. It was clearly i was on the verge of explosion and decided to let it go. It was not worth it to lose my cool for this kind of self-obsessed guy.
Until I heard the word “Bitch” coming out from his mouth, and I admit calling him “douche-bag” in order to fight back for myself. His friend came to stop us, and he went over-boarded by calling me “Fucking bitch fucking bitch” from behind. Trust me, it was damn loud and he completely enjoyed doing that.
I forgot if he have pointed middle finger but the actions he showed aren’t polite at all. Worst thing was, I saw everything.
I went ahead and scolded him as I felt it wasn’t fair that i should be insulted by this especially I was not in the wrong. It was so disrespectful to me and totally not a way a gentleman should act.
You are so full of yourself that you thought that everything should go in your way. You are like a kiddo trying to get attention from everyone so that they can buy you sweets. You are self-centered who assume all girls will be feel it is their honor for you to hit on them. Let me tell you. Girls may be mesmerized by your sweet talking words, but not women. Why, because women are looking for a gentleman, not a random guy who assume he is so good looking that he is fit to be a Casanova. Oh ya, there is a certain standard to be a Casanova and unfortunately you do not even fit the basic criteria, which is your looks.
Worse still, you do not have a single respect in woman. You thought that all girls are the same kind of species. Please, use your brain to filter your words first before it come out from your filthy mouth.. Compared to me, you are the one who is being a whiny girl and crude for using foul language to defend yourself. You know what, you are embarrassing yourself in public and being so childish. Do you think that others who saw will think that you’re so manly and charming?
No please. It is a huge turn off for girls, and even for guys.
You think girls will get intimidated by your stupid acts? Well, maybe girls do but not woman. We stand for ourselves and prove to you that you are wrong. We tell you right in the face to give respect to us cause we deserve it. I, myself, will not tolerate people for not giving me the respect that i deserve.
Some of them may think that apology is enough to ease them, but not to me. You may have said “Sorry” to me, however I am not obliged to accept it and have the rights to be pissed. I know i was being (what you said) “”uncouth for” for not shaking your hand after you apologized. It was rude on my part to ignore and walked away, I know. i don’t care about what you think about me. I don’t give a shit. I have rights to choose who to be my friend. Once you have pissed me off, I don’t forgive and I don’t forget. Anyway, I don’t feel your sincerity at all.
A quick question. Don’t you feel bad that your stupid acts can put your friend’s company at risk?
I can feel the anxiety from them when we are questioning your friends how can your acts matches the motto of your company. They are trying their very best to appease us and explaining to us carefully to prevent offending us further in order to save their reputation. I don’t know which part of role you are playing in this company, maybe the shareholder or whatever (I don’t care). However, i can see that you don’t care much and don’t really think of the consequences either. Everything is just in the moment to vent out your anger and try your best to humiliate women.
Also, you need your friends to wipe your butt and clear your mess after you’ve created trouble instead of settling it yourself. You just hide behind them and continue enjoying your night, thinking that it is your friend’s duty to clear it up for you. Maybe inside the clique, you are the big shot. However, this means that your friendship with the rest are measurable with money and socializing value. Nothing is genuine. This is not how friend should treat each other. We choose to be around them because they are like the family we never have, and enjoy each other’s company. We hope the best for them, and correct their mistakes if they are in the wrong to improve themselves.
You do not deserve to have friends like them who helped you settled the trouble you’ve made. They treat you as their brothers, but i don’t see the same from you and your actions.
As a guy, you should come out and settle yourself. It is not necessary to be owning up to your mistakes and say sorry. However, you can come out and settle your grudges with me if you’re still not happy with what i’ve said. And, not by disappearing behind them hoping they can settle the score for you.
Also, do you realized that not a single soul stand up for you and join you in scolding me? Well, either they do not agree with your actions and think it is wrong, or they are plain lazy to do so.
Well, for the other two sitting down watching the show, I don’t know. Maybe is the second option. However, for the two guys that explained to us, definitely I can confirm that they do not agree with your actions.
A moment of truth, you are a disgrace for your company. One that completely doesn’t fit to be a gentleman, and (as far as i can see) not learning either. I don’t care if this sound insulting or not, but i just have to be straightforward and say it.
Can’t believe this kind of guy exist on earth, and i have personally deal with them. Totally wasted my energy and my strength. I shouldn’t have got angry over him, since he is a nobody to me. Well, life do comes with unpleasant surprises too right?
One last thing before I end this post.
Respect for woman is the basic fundamental to become a gentleman. And, i am not saying respect by means of acting and showing your true colors after that. What I mean is to respect from the bottom of your heart and see them as a person, and not a fuck partner or your winning trophy. Women can take up your game, it is just up to them whether they want or not. Don’t think that women are just some predictable species on earth that help to give birth and be a housewife.
If you do not even know the basic priority to become a gentleman, don’t ever EVER think of becoming one yourself.